A thing called marriage life
I’ve been married to my darling husband, Ferrie, for almost 2 years now, and it doesn’t really seem like a long time. Probably ’cause I’m enjoying it, and it IS not that long a time. Most people still find themselves in a dilemma, mulling over getting married; making a commitment to one person, being stuck with that one same person for the rest of their lives… (whew… to think of the concept…) Alhamdulillah, I don’t see myself fall in that category; who takes much consideration and time to finally decide to get married. The reason could be because the surroundings of my upbringing is still fairly conservative, still think its better for a girl and a boy to be wed as quickly as they can, to avoid fitnah and create more delightful sins *if you know what I mean?.. wink.. wink..* Contrary to the concept created by those dilemmatic people, I believe that marriage brings its own rizqi. You have many advantages of being married; one big advantage is that you don’t have to fulfill your “needs” by yourself, ANY kind of needs, you officially have someone to share with. But aside from the advantages, there are some responsibilities attached to the word marriage, for me they would be balancing my role as a mother, a wife, a working woman, and a child to my parents. Pff… that’s not an easy task, I tell ya. My baby boy just doesn’t give me any problems; instead he gives me elation beyond my dreams. He makes me want to be with him ALL the time. But then my husband will appear with his sulky face, complaining that I’m not attending to his needs. Luckily that’s just one or two times, he’s been really understanding of my position. As a working woman, sometimes, I really wish I could quit my job and be a full time housewife, where I can be with my baby boy, 24-7. Which would mean, I would have to be fully dependant on my husband’s income… (scary thought — since I’ve never really been fully dependant on anyone but myself). Another alternative is create a job that I can do at home, or somewhere nearby, so I can spend more time with my child (and his future siblings). Psst… this is also one of my dreams that havenot come true YET. Even when you’re married, you can’t just abandon your responsibilities of being a child to your parents. Sometimes you got to answer to their call as well. When they need anything, or just simply when they need to see you. So for me, marriage compels me to be responsible far beyond my years, or at least far than what I am now. Because I feel like I need to always be one step ahead to be able to balance all of my reponsibilities nicely, to keep the family together, both my own lil’ family and my whole family. I assume that would be the whole idea of that thing called marriage life. I am pleased to be welcoming my best friend and her lucky boyfriend into marriage life next month, in March. To Zili and Dudi, may Allah’s blessing be bestowed upon you and your upcoming marriage life. Amin.
